Attending a Wedding While Planning a Wedding

This past weekend I attended a wedding while planning a wedding for the first time. It's an entirely different ballgame. You assess and critique EVERYTHING. The usual Post-Wedding Hungover version of myself normally has no clue what my fiance is talking about the next morning when she remembers the dresses, the centerpieces, the programs, etc. The morning after, I'm lucky if I remember the wedding colors, and am doubly lucky if I don't puke from the overexertion of trying to remember colors mixed w/ alcohol poisoning. I kid, I kid...

Even though I drank as much as I normally do this last weekend, I can recall every detail of the wedding. I assume that's because this is the first time I really SAW them. Even though we got drunk enough for Ms. Temple of Groom to randomly talk in a renaissance era accent (I'm not joking, at one point she couldn't find me so she was asking all our friends where her "liege"was) I remember everything. I feel like a superhero after the accident that gave him all of his super powers. In this case imagine a giant wedding planning book dropping on me from space in a vineyard (that's where the wedding took place). I climb out in a tattered suit and yell "I REMEMBER EVERY DETAIL!!!! THE COLORS WERE BURNT ORANGE AND CREAM! PASS ME ANOTHER FRIED RISOTTO BALL!!!" I admit, not the sexiest superpower, but it's a start.

Anyway, yes, attending a wedding while you're in the early planning stages is totally a different experience and it's actually an extremely beneficial experience too. You're looking for new ideas, seeing what worked, seeing what didn't work. You learn so much. Perhaps the best thing I saw at this wedding was the table assignment cards. Instead of getting a piece of paper w/ your name and table assignment on it, the bride and groom wrote a really heartfelt letter to each person/couple. It was such a nice touch. I've never seen that before. What are the rules about stealing this idea?! Another great tidbit I learned from the wedding was born from tragedy. Apparently before the reception the venue noticed the centerpieces kept blowing over (the winds in central CA are pretty gusty!) so the bride had them pull the centerpieces from the tables. That taught us if we're going to DIY our centerpieces, and have an outdoor wedding, we need to take wind into consideration. Also it showed me that a table didn't look lost w/o a grand centerpiece. A centerpiece can be small, simple, classy, and sturdy and be just fine! Lastly, Rebecca and I have always worried about planning something after the reception, or having ideas for our friends who want to afterparty. After the reception last Saturday we realized we no longer have to worry about that. If you have booze hungry adults they will find alcohol on their own. We got them as far as we needed to take them, they are responsible for the rest. WE were able to find the one bar still open in Solvang w/o the bride and groom worrying about us! So we'll do the same.

What to do when your fiance picks horrible colors!

Any of you that actually know me know that there's only one thing I truly hate - The Pittsburgh Steelers. I'm a Baltimore Ravens fan, and it's just something inside me I can't restrain. I really hate the Steelers.

That being said, can you imagine the look on my face when my "Future Wife" (shout out to "The Room") proposed the Steelers colors as our wedding colors. Thank god she told me this while on iChat. My face emoting pure disgust shielded behind a laptop miles away.

I could hear my Baltimore buddies (especially Nick) cracking a whip, laughing at me, berating me with insults on my wedding day. This could not happen. Which led me to ask the question:

"What do you do when your fiance picks the colors of your arch nemesis sports team as your wedding colors?"

- The first step is not to panic. Nothing is set in stone quite yet.
- The second step was to start thinking about what colors I would RATHER have. The first thing someone asks when you shoot down their suggestion is "Well what do YOU want?!" It's always good to have a suggestion in your pocket.

The solution, and I have countless wedding blogs to thank for this, is an Inspiration Color Board.

Inspiration color boards are collages made up of pictures that contain the colors, the looks, the feels you want for your wedding. I knew this was the only way I could ditch the Steelers white & yellow for other colors. Instead of just nixing the idea, I had to show something I liked more.

What is the one thing that overpowers The Pittsburgh Steelers?... The Baltimore Ravens. That's right. I added purple. Problem solved.


That's a copy of the board I created. I kept her colors, and my manhood. Mission accomplished!

Guys, always, always, always keep your cool and have an option you can suggest rather than just shooting something down.

What time is it?! GAME TIME!